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by Melanie Gideon
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  • Publisher: Knopf
  • Publishing date: 04/08/2009
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-13: 9780307270672
  • ISBN: 030727067X

Synopsis

Book Description
“We are all so curious. Hungry for the truth. If only we could ask the questions we really want to ask of each other and get the real answers. Like how many times a month do you have sex? What prescription drugs are you on? Are you happy? Really happy? Happy enough?”

For anybody who has ever wondered privately Is this all there is, Melanie Gideon’s poignant, hilarious, exuberant meditation, The Slippery Year, chronicles a year in which she confronts both the fantasies of her receding youth and the realities of midlife with a husband, a child, and a dog (one of whom runs away). She reflects on the exigencies of domesticity--the need for a household catastrophe plan, the fainting spell occasioned by the departure of her nine-year-old son for camp, the mattress wars, and the carpool line. With tenderness, unsparing honesty, and uproarious wit, Gideon brings us back again and again to the sweetness of ordinary pleasures and to life’s most enduring satisfactions. She captures perfectly that moment right before everything changes and the things we have loved forever begin to fall away for the first time.

The Slippery Year is the story of a woman’s quest to reignite passion, beauty, and mystery and discover if “happily ever after” is a possibility after all.


A Q&A with Melanie Gideon

Question: What is a “Slippery Year”?

Melanie Gideon: Simply put, a Slippery Year is a year in which we are in the process of transformation. We’ve got one arm in the coat of our old life (a coat that no longer fits us--the sleeves are too short) and one arm in the coat of our new life (which doesn’t fit us yet either--the sleeves are too long). A Slippery Year is a call to awaken. Change is coming for you, whether you like it or not.

Question: Why did you decide to write about yours?

Melanie Gideon: Change came for me in the form of the tricked-out, jacked up, four-by-four van with a diesel engine and a cattle guard on its front bumper that my husband bought over the Internet. He had all these dreams of our driving to Baja in it, of living an adventurous life. Well, I hated the thing on sight. It was so enormous it barely fit in our driveway. Obviously this was his midlife crisis vehicle. But there was one problem. He wasn’t going through a midlife crisis--I was. In fact, he was sailing through midlife doing exactly what all the literature said you should do! Find new hobbies! Take up new sports. Ingest fish oil tablets. No, I was the one stuck, unwilling to push myself out of my comfort zone. Somehow, when I wasn’t paying attention (which was most of the time), I had slipped outside of my life, and I knew if I didn't do something about it I might slip out of my life for good.

Question: You write in your introduction: "I am one of the millions who is currently walking around in a daze, no longer recognizing herself, wondering 'Is this all there is?'" Do you think this is a uniquely feminine experience?

Melanie Gideon: No, I do not think this is unique to women! Are you kidding me? Our puppy wonders if this is all there is every day. I see it on his face when he’s done with his kibble, or when I give him one scratch behind the ear instead of two. “Is this all there is” is the human condition. Most of us are too smart to admit it, however, and for good reason, because people might want to throw eggs at you if you confess this. I felt guilty asking this question, especially because I had a lot. I had no right to complain. I had a wonderful partner and a healthy child and we had a house and we both had jobs. Even so, there was this flatness, this indifference. I had become an observer rather than a participant. Everybody, no matter what they have, still has something they need and long for. I wanted to feel my life deeply again.

Question: You have a caring, devoted husband and a precocious, loving son. You have a nice home and live within driving distance of a Trader Joe's. Are you worried about the reaction to a book where you question all that you have?

Melanie Gideon: For those of you who will not be slipping away to Italy any time soon but instead are attempting to open your eyes to your ludicrous and yet often miraculous lives, Montepulciano is a fruity, dry wine with soft tannins. Yes--of course I’m worried about people’s reactions. That’s why I put off writing a memoir for so long. What right did I have to write a memoir? I hadn’t suffered enough. I wasn’t different enough. You, know, I actually made a list of things I could write a memoir about. Things that set me apart--that were worthy of a memoir. It was a pathetic list. There was one item on it: I was a twin. This used to be a big deal. At least when I was growing up in the sixties before IVF. Now, being a twin has lost most of its cachet. You have to be a quadruplet or a sextuplet to write a memoir about it. Instead I decided to write about all the ordinary things that mattered: children, dogs, sisters, love, loss, the passage of time, and all the reasons to go on living when the only thing we can be sure of it that one day it will all end.

Question: You write: “Marriage changes passion. Suddenly you’re in bed with a relative.” What was your husband’s reaction to this book?

Melanie Gideon: Well, I wasn’t stupid. I didn’t let him read it until I was done. Then as I passed him the manuscript, I told him what he was holding in his hands was a love story--and he might not think that upon the first read, but give it a little time. My husband, being the wise, sweet, generous man that he is, agreed. A few months later, that is.

Question: How have you changed your life since you finished writing The Slippery Year, and what do you hope readers will take away from it?

Melanie Gideon: The Slippery Year began with a van. The van was really a metaphor for the adventure that was missing in my life. I like to think of this book as my van: writing it was my adventure. I only wish I could have ordered the book over the Internet--like my husband did with the van--and spared myself all that work. I hope readers will laugh and be comforted and perhaps see some of themselves in these pages. I wrote this book so I wouldn’t feel alone--alone in the carpool line, alone in my questions about marriage and motherhood, and alone in my attempts to make sense of my life. I definitely feel less alone these days. Especially since our puppy has peed on every carpet in the house, so wherever I walk I get a little reminder of how not alone I really am in the form of yellow stains that will not come out no matter what carpet cleaner I use.

(Photo © Jonathan Sprague)


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  • This book "STINKS"
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    I must have been convinced to buy this book by the positive reviews- I really cant remember although its only been a few days. IT IS A TERRIBLE, POINTLESS BOOK. I have just read the negative reviews and think that even THEY are generous. This woman is very, very unsympathetic. What is truly SAD, Unbelievable is that she got a publisher. Who would be interested in HER and what is going on in her life. Does she say anything really nice about her husband-- what about gratitude for this Saint who has to put up with her. I kept looking forward to finding some redeaming traits in her personality but none. WHO IS THE PERSON THAT GREEN LIGHTED THIS BOOK. I am an attorney, almost finished a Ph.D in French Lit and am widely read-- however I like good "trash" also. This book and this woman is (are) unbelievable bad and dull. The only reason that I give it one star is that it seems that I have to or my review wont be posted.

  • What's the Point?
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    This book has a few somewhat poignant moments but basically is light reading. I feel the author was attempting to reach a higher level of understanding concerning her life, but I feel she is still too young and caught up in the flurry of it to be able to take such a perspective at this time. If she waited 15, 20 or more years before writing this book I think it would have made more of a positive, thoughtful impression on me hopefully due to her then having an older, wiser, more mature insight. And though we are somewhat close in age and share some things in common, overall I couldn't relate very well to much of what she was describing or experiencing. Spending $3,000 on a mattress, living in a house built on stilts situated over a fault line, frequently having dinner out in over-priced restaurants just reeks of ignorance and materialism rather than a newly gained insight about life. Right now she just comes across as a complaining rich person. This book might have potential if she totally rewrote it with a serious attitude, and attempted humor from a positive perspective rather than a negative one. A couple of areas which could use a lot more thought and introspection were 1.) her dog, Bhodi, and his death, and 2.) the woman crying in the Toyota Corolla. I want to know what these experiences caused the author to feel and think about on a deeper level other than the fleeting sadness she spoke of. Tell me how these things changed you on a spiritual/psychological/emotional level and how you grew from them. I don't care to read about your "stress eraser". It would bother me a lot to see a person heaving big sobs in a car parked in front of me at my kid's school. The most you got out of seeing this woman cry was to not slump in your car and use your stress eraser lest it look like you are masturbating? I would feel compelled to ask them what was wrong and try to help. Issues such as these could have been dug into a lot deeper. Some areas needed a lot less developing such as buying the mattresses story and the camping story because they seemed so shallow. And why does she feel she needs psychotherapy? You have a great life and you still think you need therapy? There were no experiences which the author wrote about having that were especially unique in making me feel as if something profound had taken place in her life or would cause her to need psychotherapy. I could not relate to this book or empathize much with the author since there was really nothing to empathize with. Most of the stuff she talked about I could care less about. There was way too much superfluous writing and not enough substance. She has the best of everything - family, health, money, love, friends, husband etc...What is so difficult about that? Instead of trying to find reasons to make it seem like she's having a crisis of some sort, or that the other shoe is about to drop anytime she should feel incredibly blessed and thankful.

  • Laughing and crying in one chapter
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    I have never felt so many emotions while reading as I did with this one. As a mother and wife I totally related to it. On so many levels. And the part about Trader Joe's was so spot on, I could not stop laughing. Loved it and admired her honesty both in her remarks about motherhood and about being a wife of many years. The only thing which has me wondering is her reference to watching Avatar with her son on TV..how could that be? It just came out after this book. Recommending this to my friends who love a good laugh and who also feel they come up short in the mother department. Very entertaining and poignant.

  • Funny, insightful
    From Amazon

    This is not the most profound book you'll ever read. But is it funny? Yes. Melanie is like a female Seinfeld. She writes about all of those thoughts in your head that you never actually say out loud. It's a quick read, but one you won't want to put down.

  • A revealing, passionate survey
    From Amazon

    THE SLIPPERY YEAR: A MEDITATION ON HAPPILY EVER AFTER provides a blend of autobiography and fun meditation of a year in the author's life in which she confronts fading youth and the realities of midlife with a family. Her search to find passion, beauty and happiness midway through life makes for a revealing, passionate survey and is inviting reading for any general library's patron.

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